As the relationship progresses, the teenage couple begin to bicker, and it soon blows up into a huge fight. They both decide to punish the other by holding off on sex.
The teenage couple punishing the other was funny, no doubt. But, as I understand it, the biology works in ways that doesn't make it easy for males to forget about sex. Recall the reports from a few years ago that a man on an average thinks about sex about 20 times a day? This is why the 2,500-year old Greek play Lysistrata worked with women denying men sex unless and until they ended fighting wars.
In the old country, two teenage kids who are neighbors might fall in love but the odds of them having sex are practically nil. Premarital sex is extremely rare. Sexual relations for the overwhelming majority is within marriage.
What if after getting married the husband wants to have sex but his wife doesn't? What if he compels her to have sex with him? What if it is a terrorizing rape by the husband?
India is now forced to think about these issues:
Marital rape is a crime in many Western countries, including the United States, Britain and Canada. But India is among nearly three dozen countries in the world where spouses cannot file a criminal complaint against their partners for nonconsensual sex.A high court in Delhi will decide whether to eliminate the marital rape exemption from the country’s rape laws
How violent are marital relations?
Marital rape is a sensitive topic, difficult to measure anywhere, but even more so in India – where most sexual violence is believed to occur within families and goes unreported. According to the Indian government's latest National Family Health Survey, about 30% Indian women aged 18-49 reported having experienced spousal violence. In terms of sexual violence, the average Indian woman is 17 times more likely to face sexual violence from her husband than from anyone else, according to the survey of 724,115 women.
Not that spousal violence doesn't exist in sexually liberated societies. But, when one overlays the stigma of divorce in India, it is easy to understand why wives would continue to live with their violent husbands until death does them apart.
Predictably, there is opposition from men, and a few women too, to laws that will criminalize marital rape. Like this one from Anil Murty, co-founder of the Save Indian Family Foundation:
Murty, the men’s rights activist, said the domestic violence law had turned men into “second-class citizens” in India as they had no recourse if they were abused at home. “This will lead to a gender-war situation,” he said.
Meanwhile, a few men--of all ages--have taken the fight to a whole new level: Marriage strike. These men refuse to get married. Get the logic? No marriage means no sex for the women too.
Do these men really believe that their version of Lysistrata will be a success? Do these men on marriage strike live by themselves? Or, do they live with their mothers who cook and clean for their adult sons who are busy tweeting about their protest?
I suspect that the underlying issue is one that I have been talking and blogging about for years: Men, especially young men, have a tough time understanding that the world is rapidly changing and that it no longer treats men as the privileged gender. They are then shocked that girls are smart in school; women enroll in huge numbers in colleges and outperform them; women are now CEOs and rocket-scientists and not merely stay-at-home moms; ...
Meanwhile, testosterone continues to pump through their bodies even as women become unattainable. Here in this country, these are the incels who are in rage, and looking for male supremacy.
What these morons fail to understand is that if they change their ways, they too will have lots of sex just like the teenagers in the sitcom that I don't want to admit to watching!
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