tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27946614.post2255326818259012827..comments2024-03-07T14:43:21.888-08:00Comments on Whatever I want to write about: These are the best of times ... but also the worst of times?Sriram Khéhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06907731254833435446noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27946614.post-41416800803782460502016-08-25T07:03:51.136-07:002016-08-25T07:03:51.136-07:00Anne, the question that you raise is *the* challen...Anne, the question that you raise is *the* challenge that parents are increasingly going to be forced to face in a liberal, free society like ours. (The highly restricted role of girls and women in many other societies is another problem of its own.) <br />I will readily admit that I have no answers. Not a single thought as a potential solution. This is a case of the proverbial genie that is now out of the bottle and nobody can push it back in ... <br />Ahem, what else did you expect to hear from Major Buzzkill? ;)Sriram Khéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06724218458246880137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27946614.post-79462591411516837712016-08-24T20:42:06.854-07:002016-08-24T20:42:06.854-07:00I land somewhere between the two of you. I think ...I land somewhere between the two of you. I think Ramesh is a bit idealistic and Sriram is a bit too negative. With two daughters who have plenty of female friends, I see and hear plenty about the pressure some girls put on themselves to be attractive to boys. Thankfully it seems to be an issue of immaturity so they outgrow it. The young women in their early twenties know they have value beyond looks/sexuality that the younger girls aren't experienced enough to realize. And the boys are immature, incapable of realizing the value of a smart, funny and/or kind girl over the value of a "hot" girl.<br /><br />It is also an issue of confidence. Teenage girls don't have sufficient experience in life to have developed the confidence in their abilities such that they can discount the importance of looks and popularity. Once they have achieved a few things with their brains and their hearts and their souls - grades, scholarships, jobs, volunteer work, friendships - they will have reasons to believe in themselves beyond appearances and realize they have much more to offer.<br /><br />Question is: How do we get the teenage girls through the developing and maturing years with their brains, sense and confidence in tact?Anne in Salemnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27946614.post-63271370648682919632016-08-24T17:34:50.683-07:002016-08-24T17:34:50.683-07:00Not convoluted by any means.
You are living in you...Not convoluted by any means.<br />You are living in your world of mirage when you write that "Nobody is forcing anybody to look "hot"" ... you are seriously discounting, waving away, the tremendous pressure young girls and women feel to look good. I wish it were outdated, as you think it is. If it were not outdated, then you think Drumpf will be able to say all the nasty things he has said about women and get away with it?Sriram Khéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06724218458246880137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27946614.post-11752999415928661922016-08-24T06:34:37.764-07:002016-08-24T06:34:37.764-07:00This is a very involved and convoluted argument.
...This is a very involved and convoluted argument. <br /><br />There is a matter of a choice involved. Nobody is forcing anybody to look "hot". If you want to do so, that's fine. If you don't want to do so that's fine too. Increasingly in the corporate world , at least, the notion of women having to look pretty is completely outdated. Both men and women need to dress and look smart and not slovenly. End of story. You can have the face of an owl. As long as you perform you are fine. If not, you are fired. Period.Rameshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11782192840421019943noreply@blogger.com